“God’s will” is a hugely misunderstood term in Christianese. Back when I had hair, going thru all the youth groups I was lead to believe that God’s will was a super secret mission that only you could do for God and you had to find out what this secret mission was – you had to make totally sure it was in fact really God’s will. Nonsense. Sadly, we still here this a lot today in Chruchianity. But what does the Bible say?
Our main purpose for our lives is to glorify God (Is 43:7) – we do this by growing into the image of his Son Jesus (Rom 8:29). This means sanctification – as Wayne Grudem says is “a progressive work of God and man that makes us more and more free from sin and more like Christ in our actual lives.”
Therefore, as we pray – let’s pray to avoid sin and love righteousness more,pray that we GROW, to become more like Christ in our “actual lives.”
Job says this is wisdom and understanding “Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom and to turn away from evil is understanding.” (Job 28:28). Paul instructs us further In Eph 5:15-17 “Look carefully then, how you walk, not as unwise, but as wise making the best use of time for the days are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”
The less we look like sin and more like Jesus in our actual lives, the more all the other “stuff” in our lives becomes more clear. He is our LIGHT.
Mike Ruel 
I totally agree. You clarified some of the thoughts and questions I have had over the years about people struggling to do “God’s Will”. Thanks
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Wait, are you suggesting that maybe I didn’t need to twist and turn and agonize over whether to wear jeans vs khaki’s to school on Friday’s? or that God was okay with my choice for a blue car over the red one? How about college – there was a lot more invested in that decision; could I have been following in God’s will even though I chose one school over another without a booming voice or clap of thunder from Heaven? Did I marry God’s one and only choice for me? What if I didn’t? ….
Mike, I hope you continue to speak to this issue and bring with it the clarity of Scripture rather than the ambiguity we both seemed to experience in our separate but similar church up-bringings. How scary to think that it lies within us to direct our own paths without the assurance of God’s word. How unsettling to try an guess whether we are hearing God’s voice or the rumblings of an upset stomach. And, how wonderful to be known by and to know a Omnipotent Sovereign Gracious God.